Dear Dad,
I am graduating in May. I will have two undergraduate degrees. According to the man, come May, I will have proved that I have some grasp on international relations and political science. They will give me the paper that says that I know how to follow directions and I am capable of following through on a semi-monumental task. It is this piece of paper that qualifies me for life.
As you well know, I have been working on this project since 2001. It has been a long time coming. Life has thrown up quite a few road blocks. Most of them were scary, I know, but here we are. You have been quite a support to me. I don’t know what I would have done it without you, and I certainly am not ready for you to walk away. I cannot imagine not needing you there to support me, but it is time for you to let me go. I know that you are scared. I know that you look at me and see a little kid that keeps getting hurt. I know that you feel like you need to protect me. You have to let go.
I need to go away for a while. I need you to let me go away for a while. This is me growing up. I grew up quite some time ago, but I can’t really go until you let me. If you let me go now, I will come back soon. If you make me fight to leave, I will not want to come back. I want to want to come back. Please, don’t make me fight with you.
Word on the street is that I am smart. The profs tell me that I am one of the best in my program. They say that I can compete with the best out there. They talk about graduate programs at the best schools in the nation. It takes everything in me to believe them. I cannot look at myself and see brilliance, but they see something great. You want me to stay here, go to school at Kent or Akron. Can you understand that I would be throwing away something great if I did this? They would be tremendously disappointed in me if I stay. You will be tremendously disappointed in me if I go.
I am scared too. I don’t forget all of the bad things that have happened. I feel safer here, but I need to open the other doors and spend some time on the other paths. I don’t know where to go, or what to do, but I know that it is time. Please, will you help me?
Thanks. I love you. I am sorry that I have to grow up.
Colleen
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